Nature vs. Nurture

This is a question that many ask themselves when they're feeling less than satisfied or even overwhelmed by who they are. Fact is that we are a unique mixture of what nature and nurture has offered us. This is what makes us who we are. What will you do with it? When analyzing both these aspects of yourself, its important to remember that nurture has the ability to greatly influence what is already there, nature.


Many are fooled by the idea that nurture only occurs in childhood. Every experience we go through affects who we are and who we will become. These influences range from societal impact, parenting or education to name a few. It's important to take note of how these things make a difference in order to maximize or minimize certain potentials. Everyone comes into your life for a reason. Sometimes interactions that last little to no time can make a larger impact on you than relationships that have lasted years.

It's easy to become discouraged when life isn't making things easy for us. However, the struggles we go through are a continual part of our nurturing process. We are only as strong as the battles we have faced. Nothing worth it truly comes easy so if you flip your perspective you will realize that what you go through is in preparation of what is in store. 

Some traumatic experiences would lead one to question this theory. Why do I deserve this? Why did I have to go though this? It is up to us to decide how we will allow nurture to influence us. We all want to choose the positive route. To declare that we are strong in our darkest time but this isn't always easy. Don't beat yourself up if you don't feel strong. Put yourself in situations that will inspire you to come out of darkness and take steps forward. Seek the good people in your life, meet new people, take advantage of your resources, read articles like this. Progress only occurs one step at a time.


There are two aspects to the nature of ones inner being. Inherited characteristics and astrological alignment at birth. We all know that who our parents are will influence us in some way, even if we're never met them. However, if you're never taken the time to explore your birth chart I encourage you to take a look at yours. You may be surprised how accurate it can be.

That being said, be sure to do the right amount of research to better understand how each planet affects your personality before attempting to understand what it all means. If you're a believer, you know that we were all designed by a greater being just like this earth. It is inevitable that our personalities are determined by our relationship with the universe. The entire universe is a working machine and although we like to think of ourselves as separate, we are a part of this machine.

Understanding how the universe influences your emotions, actions and overall personality can help you realize areas of strength and weakness. This will in turn allow you to consciously and accurately make changes where needed. Many are turned off by horoscopes that never seem to make any sense or aren't even accurate at all but this is different. This is a detailed explanation of who you have the potential to be. The good and the bad.

As you discover and reflect on who you are, remember that life is a journey, who you are will always evolve. Take the steps toward who you want to be as often as you can.

Words and portrait by Monique Hoilett, @alifemag